Soft Family Violence
With the development of city civilization, family violence seems already went out of our sight. While we are celebrating that kids are not getting hurt in family violence, there is damage way appears. This kind of way will not hurt child physically, but spiritual. We call that soft violence, which means hurting people with words.
I can see that most parents still not understand what does soft violence means, they usually think that beating kids is violence, but soft violence, they have no idea. For instance, most parents would say the word to kids like “You have to study hard, or you will not find a good job. And if you don’t have a good job, how could you suppose to wait on and support us when we are getting old?” does it sound familiar to you? The words like that will cause serious psychological burden to young little kids, and they would study every hard and ignore their health, while they are in the high stress to worry about they will not find a good job, and have no ability to support their old parents, that would become a black sheep.
In addition, “you classmate is better than you in math or English, why would you do an excellent job just like them?” this kind of word will hurt kid’s esteem deeply. They might think that they are never good enough for their parents, and it will probably lead to depressive disorder.
Therefore, when parents teach children, they should not only use physical violence but also not soft violence, because the damage of both violence is equal.